A mute button and trying to control the wife you men wouldn't know what to do with out us , without our input I don't know what this place would be like, I can only just imagine .......... O my goodness what a terrible thought
While I mostly agree with you, I must tell you something. My wife is from the Philippines. She very seldom rode in a car, let alone drove one. I taught her how to drive. She learned well, and I must say is an excellent driver. She's never had a traffic ticket (moving violation) or an accident with another car. She did spin out twice, in bad weather on slippery roads, once without incident and another time sliding the rear tire against the curb requiring me to replace the lower control arm. Having never driven in bad weather (snow) it's expected, as an inexperienced driver learns things the hard way. I don't hold this against her as I've had my slips and slides when I was new. So do most people.
Now, I was driving for 32 years before she ever got behind the wheel of a car. I've driven MANY different cars, different sizes of trucks, such as large dump trucks, sometimes pulling a trailer with a 9 ton dozer on it, delivery trucks (UPS), barrel trucks (concrete), etc. What drives me crazy with her is that at times, she gasps in horror at things she thinks is going to happen. From experience, I almost always see things coming a long ways off and have started to take action to avoid something. I make the mistake of thinking she knows whats already happening, but she doesn't. As a result, when she gasps or shouts (sometimes almost screams) I think that there is something else going on that I don't see, not realizing she doesn't already know what's been going on. So it scares me for an instant causing me to look around for something else that's not happening.
Let me give you an example. A few years back, I was leaving the island of Brigantine. It was a 4 lane highway, 2 lanes in either direction. I think you call it a double carriage way. It was winter and there had been a little bit of dew. This froze on the roadway of the Brigantine bridge. I know from experience that this condition made it necessary to go very slowly over the bridge, because on the down side, you would never be able to break at all, or you would slide. Going too fast on the up side would cause you to gain too much speed going down which would, cause you to lose traction. Once you gained that speed, you're finished. No amount of gearing down, breaking or steering would prevent you from breaking traction. The only thing that you could do was to go slow enough going up, so that on the way down, your speed was not greater than your tires ability to hold traction on that roadway. At this lower speed, you still had enough traction to steer out of the way should something happen. At the top of the bridge, a man passed me going about 5 or 6 miles faster that me. I turned to my wife and told her: "Before we get to the bottom of the bridge, this man will get into an accident. " She looked at me like I was crazy. I said: "No, just watch." Half way down the bridge, the man lost traction and started to slide. My wife starts screaming thinking we'll hit him. I told her I was going slow enough to avoid it and steer around him which I in fact did with no problem. My problem is that when she screamed, I had to look around to see if there was something else she saw that I didn't. This takes your concentration off what is actually going on. I had to tell her to shut up which I hate to do.